There’s a saying you are what you eat….and so the saying is also true, for you are what you think. Your thoughts create the life that you are living and you have the power to create the life you desire. However, there are a few things to consider when manifesting this ideal world. We need to be conscious of what we are saying to ourselves and how we are saying it.
Often my clients say “I want a relationship”. Ok, how about asking the universe for a healthy and loving relationship? Otherwise, the heavens may give you an unemployed bum. Now if you take that statement and tweak it just a bit by saying “I need a loving and healthy relationship”, then your chances of finding something suitable for you are increased. It is like the old Rolling Stones song “You don’t always get what you want, you get what you need”. If you look up the word “need” in the dictionary, its definition is basically to lack and be without. So why “want” a relationship?
It is also helpful to be sure of what you want. I suggest this exercise to people looking for a relationship. I ask them to write down 10 things they “need” in a partner. This can be anything from loyalty, honesty, good looking, faithful, or rich. It is a personal matter and only you can decide what is best for you. Be sure to take the time and think about the specific traits that are important to you. Upon completing the list I suggest you place it on your nightstand and take a moment daily before bedtime to review the list. I am impressed with how many people do this exercise and report back on how well it worked for them, and how the new person in their life had nearly all the traits they wrote down.
Still not convinced how powerful your mind is? Here’s another example of the power of your thoughts. Have you ever felt like you were going to catch a cold, and said to yourself, I cannot get sick right now, I have to go to work and have too much going on, and you never got that cold? Other times you may have said to yourself, I feel horrible and aching, and need to go rest and before you know it, you are sicker than a dog. This is the power of your thoughts. This goes to show how what you say internally creates your reality.
It is truly amazing once you realize how you say things to yourself that you begin to understand why things have not manifested into your life. We don’t catch the “wants, wishes, and hopes” we tell ourselves. Start consciously catching your dialog and affirm what you desire to attract. I often say “If you don’t like your life, change your thoughts”. That simple! May your thoughts all be happy and positive!